April 8, 2006


I Love Pink

Not the colour (though that's okay too), the singer. Ever since she entered the scene a few years back, a scruffed up yowly little thing, I've loved her.

A friend sent me her Stupid Girls video a little while ago, which is in heavy rotation on the music shows I avoid but the boys like. I opened my paper today and found out she did a surprise drop-in to a Toronto school for a girls-only Q&A.

With her message for girls about using their brains instead of their bodies to succeed, hers is a lonely voice pointing them in the right direction. I don't think there has been a more bewildering, or depressing, time for young girls to grow up in. I recall intense pressure about body image, boys, and sexuality when I was young. But what I see today in our culture is far, far worse, far more exploitive, and far more negative.

I get letters from teenage girls. They are smart, thoughtful and wonderful. They are also often confused and powerless. No wonder; when Paris Hilton is a role model, we've failed. When girls refer to themselves as 'hos', and dress accordingly, we've failed. This is not sexy. This is exploitive, abusive and debased. We have taken one of our most fabulous resources - youth - and crapped all over it.

Girls, here's the deal: You matter. Immensely. You are capable of so much, and while your sexual self is a wonderful thing, it does not define who you are. We need you to help change the world. You are going to struggle with many things, but there are people who will listen, set decent examples for you, and reassure you that the process is worth the pain.

I interviewed Danielle Robinson (scroll to page 7) a couple of years back. I've watched her just grow and achieve since then - she's heading to the University of Victoria to do her Masters (they threw scads of $ at her). She's an awesome example of finding your passion, and then busting through the roadblocks to achieve it.

Listen to Pink. Listen to women you admire. Contact these women and ask them for direction. It may be your mom, a teacher, someone in the community. Don't be shy - you are already part of a wonderful club, you just have to find the door.

2 Comments:

Blogger blog-gal said...

What do you think about those "moms" that are out there competing with their daughters. I think the problem goes back generations and just seems to be getting worse. Ladies, have courage to be more than the sum of your parts.

April 08, 2006 12:48 PM  
Anonymous tc said...

Isn't Pink opening a string of strip clubs?

http://www.tonight.co.za/index.php?fArticleId=3173800

She, like the rest of us, can occasionally get lost in "postfemist" fog.

April 08, 2006 9:05 PM  

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