June 21, 2006

Big Fault Divorce

Oh, jeez. This could be a nightmare. The Supreme Court of Canada is going to rule today on whether to re-introduce 'fault' into divorce cases. In 1985, parliament got rid of the whole finding fault thing. 'Marriage breakdown' was the only box you could tick.

So, should we return to the old ways? Should we decide that divorce will once again be entrenched in law as a battle of the bitter? In this day of endless paper and technological trails, you could catch somebody doing something in about 12 seconds. Forget private investigators - you can just call the cell phone company or the bank and have enough 'I knew its!' to get divorced 8 times.

If that's what you want, that is. Why do people not realize that vindication is just not that sweet, or rewarding? You know if you're being lied to. You're lying to yourself if you think otherwise. You already know if your marriage is a pile of poo. If you're looking for reasons to leave, you should have left a long time ago.

I once knew a woman who carried her bitterness about her divorce around with her like an medal. She spent over 40 years, until the day she died, angry, single-minded and absolute hell to be around. What she never realized was that she gave the best years of her life to some creep not while they were married, but after he was long gone. What a waste of a life.

When I walk across my yard, I step on thousands of microscopic little beings. I cause damage without knowledge, without intent. Marriage is like that. Whenever you have more than one person, you have politics. People do things every day, with every step, that can be interpreted a thousand different ways. When the scale tips and the hurt consistently outweights the joy, it's time to decide if this is the way you want to live the only life you have.

Just be careful where you step.


Blogger Rainypete said...

I have found that people are either bitter or happy by nature. People like her would find something to be bitter about even if she hadn't gotten married. Life is as fun or stressful as you choose to make it.

June 21, 2006 10:25 AM  

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