September 25, 2007

I Do...Sorta

A German woman running for public office has proposed that marriages expire after 7 years.

Give this woman the job.

Oh, put down the stones. I've said the same thing several times before, admittedly tongue-in-cheek because otherwise people say I'm a marriage-hater. I'm not, really. I mean, I ended up not liking mine much, but I'm quite happy for people that figure out the combination and happily dial away day after day, year in and year out.

Her point is that so many marriages crash anyway, if they just expired it would remove so much of the hassle. If you wanted to re-up, that would be fine. Think of it; after 7 years, you're still madly in love, and you get to throw another party and get all new tea towels. Conversely, you find yourself sputtering 'why, why?' all day long, you know you only have to stick it out for a year or two, and you're done. I've actually known people that if they'd been forced to wait that year or two, probably would have ended up staying together.

I only know of a handful of great marriages; and I've always been grateful for the honesty those couples have shown me in relating that the basis of their marriage has been as much tough slogging as merry moments. I know many more couples who delude everyone, but more sadly themselves, and trudge through their lives as if it's a dress rehearsal. The sorry fact that bites them in the end? This is it. Live what you love, or face eternal regret.

I think the uproar around Gabriele Pauli's suggestion is only being fueled by those who protest too much.


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