May 24, 2008


Kids & Cars


I don't know what it is, but at this time of year I always start worrying about the kids. Not just mine, but mine, yours, everyones. The weather gets that certain something in the air, and a familiar fear settles into my soul. I don't want to lose any more young ones to driving, whether it's speeding, drinking, recklessness or just being a kid. And it's always this time - I checked my backlist, and sure enough, here's columns from May 2006 and June 2007. Today's column is here. The photo? It's Allan, at 20. The year before he was killed.

This is driving weather. We all feel it, and police stats back it up. Linda McAvoy addresses it today as well in a nice piece. For me, it's always the deadly combination of kids, great weather, driving inexperience and that unquantifiable something that urges them to believe they are going to live forever.

Please be careful, kids. We love you.

9 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

You gave me goosebumps..My sister lost her first love in a similar manner, she was never the same again.

I am always trying to teach my kids, that the driving part is easy, that the defensiveness, and trying to determine the moods and batty behavior of other drivers is and always be. The hardest part of driving.

thanks for the reminder.. so sorry for your loss.

May 24, 2008 1:26 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Lorraine, right on. The false idea of immortality, the "it will never happen to me syndrome", add some peer presure, not good results. Scary and no matter how hard we the possibility is still there. I dread the thought of the police officer knocking at my door or the phone call and my kids are adults now. They are not suppose to leave this planet before us but that fear is always present in the back of our minds.

May 25, 2008 12:11 PM  
Anonymous buzzwhack said...

Too late....the May 24 weekend has come and gone. Let's wait for Simcoe Day, Canada Day,Labour Day...or not. Your Allan pic looks like he was chanelling Robert Redford before he was taken. Nice tie and hands on hips pose. Doesn't your current squeeze find this morbid?

May 25, 2008 7:47 PM  
Blogger Lorraine said...

Morbid? How the hell is this anything more than a lesson that kids can be cut down in their prime?

Perhaps discussing the loss of my folks is 'morbid' too.

Sorry if show and tell ain't your thing. If I can find a way to keep my kids a little safer, or at least more thoughtful, I'm going to do it. And for the record, my kids' safety is all that matters to my 'current squeeze' too.

May 25, 2008 8:26 PM  
Anonymous buzzwhack said...

I've lost friends during public school era thanks to accidents with idiots in cars. Today was a great example with that green Triumph TR3 being smacked against the guard rail by a transport truck driver who kept on going. The man is in ICU ward, his lady friend in the same boat. It happens EVERY DAY. The problem with personal account stories is it's hard for others to make that direct connection unless it's already happened to them. I understand where you're going with these articles and its nice to see what Allan looked like esp with your first TO Star story about him a year or so ago. How do you make the story grab someone who hasn't suffered that loss? That's the challenge. I did a similar story for a newspaper two years ago. No feedback at all. What do you think? Is there a new way of writing about this that would make people see the point clearly? I think it would be a interesting journalistic challenge.

May 25, 2008 11:11 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

So, because you tried something and it failed, you think Lorraine should quit doing what she does best?

If she isn't making me laugh, she's making me cry. But she always makes me think, so that means it's working.

May 26, 2008 8:12 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm sitting here with tears in my eyes remembering Allan. You never seem to get over it, just, kind of, get used to it. Drive safely everyone.

Roz

May 26, 2008 8:41 AM  
Anonymous buzzwhack said...

I still tryto get the message out there. I'm looking for new ways to do it. For the reasons Lorraine stated in her TO Star article. You can have little kids pleading for safe driving BUT until it happens to you personally, the connection doesn't seem to take.Why does Ian Law get these drivers after they've had an incident? Did they believe they were immune beforehand? Defensive driving is an excellent way to cut down the risks. How many people will invest in it? See what I'm getting at?

May 26, 2008 9:14 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Point taken everyone. Great discussion, great view from all sides. I love this blog when it gets all worked up. Great people on here but what can I say? It is Lorraine's...Brownie points today Lorraine or do I just stick to the cookies? Oh! That was another discussion wasn't it? Sorry!

May 26, 2008 9:39 AM  

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