May 11, 2012

CHCH Square Off Friday

Are you a mama's boy? A researcher says that's a good thing, and that mama's boys make good partners. I'm going to have a chat with that researcher.

Guess what I'm going to tell her?


Anonymous Anonymous said...

Define a Mama's Boy for me.
I have one son who has been an old man from the day he was born. He just has that 'first-born' maturity to him. My second is totally different and won't make a move without telling me. My boyfriend is constantly telling me that I need to 'man-up that boy'.
I think he's a bit immature but that it is a reflection of some of the issues he has had with his language development. He's 15 now, very involved in school, but won't ever be one of 'the cool kids' not that that needs to be what they should aspire to.
I can't watch today but would love to hear comments on how to make sure I can keep him from being that dreaded 'momma's boy'

May 11, 2012 8:48 AM  
Blogger Lorraine said...

Good question.

I usually define a mama's boy as someone who is having his mother's wishes put ahead of his own. It's the mother's fault, usually trying to live through her son, playing the 'nobody is good enough' for my boy crap. It's all about her.

Men who adore their mothers and are respectful of them (and all women) are awesome.

In my opinion, I'm trying to raise boys to become the kind of men I'd like to date. It's about them, not me.

If a man is consistently putting his mother's wishes ahead of his partner's, and if he considers that his primary family duty, Mom has done something wrong. Our job is to raise 'em and set 'em free.

If you've raised a good man, he won't run from you screaming. And he'll treat the other women in his life with respect and care.

Oh, and he'll know how to clean a toilet.

May 11, 2012 8:56 AM  
Blogger Chris Brown (not the felon) said...

And always open the door for his wife, even when she forgets to say Thank You.

May 11, 2012 9:19 AM  
Anonymous Mis Vis said...

Define "mama's boy". My son has always been openly affectionate caring.and protective.. It is also now apparent in the way he treats his fiancée .This is "manning-up".
A boy/ young man at 15 is allowed to be immature and tell you everything he is doing. Be happy that he does for this too will change. If he is still doing this at 25 then you have a problem. I think your boyfriend needs to ZIP HIS LIP.

May 11, 2012 9:21 AM  
Anonymous Zena said...

Bang on, Lorraine.

I think that researcher co-opted the concept of "mama's boy" for her own purposes - her definition doesn't seem to match the one most people identify with the phenomenon.

But to extend the idea further, any child (male or female) who has been raised to put the wishes of their parent(s) ahead of themselves or their partner are swimming in a deadly soup.

May 11, 2012 12:28 PM  
Anonymous Zena said...

In retrospect, I probably should have written "bang-on" - "bang on" having, erm, a slightly different connotation...

Just to clarify...

May 11, 2012 5:19 PM  
Anonymous PJ said...

You mean, like, Lorraine is playing the drums?

May 12, 2012 9:23 AM  
Anonymous jmd said...

Something to do with bangers and mash?

May 12, 2012 10:17 AM  
Anonymous Zena said...

Mmmm...Bangers and mash...

May 12, 2012 1:38 PM  

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