July 3, 2012


Not so permanent record

I still have my old report cards somewhere down in the basement. My mom kept them all for us, and I barely have to open them to know what they say: 'Lorraine needs to stop being so social'. I yakked. A lot. Mostly I was a 'delight' to have in the classroom (sometimes I was a 'pleasure'), mostly because I always offered to help clean up after class so I wouldn't have to be chased home by Vicki P. What can I say; she was mean.

Over on Slate, Paul Lukas has been doing a very cool series on a bunch of old records he found. Today's entry is amazing; read the work report he found on Doris Abravaya. I could feel the sad leaking through the page. But keep reading. If you ever need to be reminded that we are not a snapshot in our history, this is it.

I meet people who believe that age is not on their side, or their job, their relationships, or their education. They think there is some magic button they've been unable to find that will make them happy or fulfilled. Nope. The only thing you can do is change the stuff about yourself you don't like, and hope it doesn't piss off too many people you care about. But this Slate piece also reminded me to be careful with the words we tell our kids...too often we become what we're told we are, instead of who we were truly meant to be.

Thanks for the reminder, Doris.

7 Comments:

Anonymous jmd said...

And in other heartwarming news, Bev Oda resigned!!!

July 03, 2012 3:24 PM  
Anonymous Roz said...

I heard she was going for her chauffeur's license. More money in that line of work...

July 03, 2012 3:50 PM  
Anonymous jmd said...

I heard she was opening a Jamba Juice - only $25.00 a glass.

July 03, 2012 4:49 PM  
Anonymous Padraig said...

Oh, good. Now we won't need to cut any more government programs.

July 03, 2012 8:50 PM  
Anonymous buzzwhack said...

Two good ones I came up with,
A web article asked what's next for ex Minister, Bev Oda. There's a train leaving Ottawa at 6, be under it!

Billy Crystal and Danny DeVito are reuniting to do a sequel to their hit movie, Throw Mama from the Train. Rumors are unconfirmed that Bev Oda has a starring role....

July 04, 2012 3:24 PM  
Blogger Chris Brown (not the felon) said...

We have had to correct ourselves many times with our foster child for this very reason. There are times where we think "How can we accept this behaviour from her when we would never accept it from our own children?" But we have to remember where she came from, how she had to struggle in foster homes, and then a homeless shelter at 16, and had to look out for herself and only herself for quite some time. Being selfish kind of comes with the territory. But there has to be a way to temper the selfishness without breaking the very little self esteem that she has.

Makes us appreciate that we're all a work in progress. And we can only hope that she'll find her way as well as Doris, and that her station stop in our lives will help keep the train on the tracks.

Thanks for a very moving and helpful article.

July 04, 2012 5:02 PM  
Anonymous Padraig said...

I think you have to be a very special sort of person to foster a child; I commend you.

(and. coincidentally, my word is 'atiward')

July 04, 2012 5:47 PM  

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